Let’s start with what BDSM is. In Hungarian, it stands for bondage-discipline, dominance-submission, and sadism-masochism. BDSM is an umbrella term that encompasses countless fetishes, which are often mistakenly identified with abuse. It is very important that the main characteristic of BDSM is the so-called SSC, which means safe, sober, and consensual. In light of this, we have brought some misconceptions about BDSM to help rid this world of taboos.
The countless taboos that have built up around BDSM are further reinforced by such films. If you are interested in the world of BDSM DON’T Start with 50 Shades of Grey. Both the movie and the book are more of the opposite of the previously mentioned SSC, so they go against the basic premise of BDSM, so it’s not really CANNOT be considered a good representation.
Just as there are misconceptions about using sex toys, there are also misconceptions about BDSM. Of course, there are those who are not satisfied with traditional vanilla sex after they have immersed themselves in the world of BDSM. However, since BDSM is a very different physical and emotional experience, it is not necessarily appropriate to compare the two. Many people do not, but simply enjoy all that BDSM offers them in addition to a traditional relationship.
This is also a misconception. Often in a subordinate-superior relationship, there is no physical contact between the dominant and submissive parties. Also, orgasm is not always part of the occasion.
Research shows that among BDSM practitioners the number of people with psychological problems is NOT higher than in the rest of society.
This is not true. Of course, there are BDSM practitioners who find pain pleasurable, while others do not. Everyone can find what suits them, if not pain, then, say, tickling.
Outside of the BDSM community, only a small percentage of practitioners are submissive or dominant. This is an opportunity for both submissive and dominant people to experience certain roles within the BDSM community that they may not be able to experience in the rest of their lives. This also suggests that it can help them to have a more fulfilling life.
BDSM affects a larger percentage of people than we think, according to various surveys. Roughly a quarter of the population fantasizes about it. According to a 2014 survey, 36% of buyers choose accessories that are also used in BDSM, such as handcuffs and blindfolds.
Finally, if you feel like it, definitely delve deeper into the world of BDSM, read blogs on the subject. Find a BDSM community near you, which is known for its open-mindedness and welcoming nature, and slowly carve out your own path.
BDSM Taboos
BDSM stands for bondage-discipline, dominance-submission and sadism-masochism. BDSM is an umbrella term covering all sorts of activities and interests but many times confused with abuse. SSC is the core of BDSM, which is a short version of Safe, Sane and Consensual. In this article we debunk some taboos related to BDSM.
That is not correct. On the contrary, that movie and book is telling the opposite of SSC, so it is not a good representation on BDSM.
Some people who delve into BDSM might find it hard to get back to vanilla sex. But since it is such a different emotional and sensual experience we shouldn’t compare them. And as many people do whatever you feel like, this is your sex life.
There are times when there is no physical contact between a dom and a sub. Also BDSM doesn’t have to involve orgasm.
Some research show that there is no difference between BDSM practitioners and the rest of the population. There is no correlation between BDSM and abuse. So by following the SSC BDSM you can create a healthy lifestyle.
The good thing about BDSM is that it can be what you want, if it is pain or tickle that also works. There are some people who find pain pleasurable, but many do not.
BDSM creates a space for people act certain roles, that they can not do outside of thise scene. So it can be beneficial regarding their emotional state. Also only a minority of BDSM practitioners are doms and subs outside of the BDSM scene.
One fifth of the population fantasize about BDSM and according to a 2014 survey 36% of US residents choose sex toys like handcuffs or masks.
If you feel like exploring this world, dive deep in blogs and visit a BDSM community near you, who are very open to newcomers! Start to create your own journey in BDSM!