It’s hard to describe what an orgasm is. It’s even harder to describe what it should feel like.
Some people just get a little tingle. Some people get a jolt in their whole body. Sometimes it’s this way, sometimes that way. Sometimes it’s not, but sexual intercourse can still be satisfying. The strength and quality of female pleasure is a wide-ranging, individually different phenomenon.
What is the meaning of female orgasm?
The question is a legitimate one from an evolutionary perspective: if the female orgasm has nothing to do with sperm ejection (as opposed to the male orgasm) or fertility, then why does it exist? A short and to the point explanation is that since we are only willing to do good things, the reason for the female orgasm is so that women feel like having sex.
How long does it take for a woman to reach orgasm?
It’s true for men as well as women: it’s very variable, it depends on many factors. In general, we can say that according to the current state of science, women need about 13 minutes of stimulation to reach ecstasy. I’m just saying: for men it’s about 5 minutes.
How many types of orgasms are there?
Interesting question. Let’s see some variations!
Clitoris: the best known and most likely to be successful among women, stimulating this tiny part of the body. No wonder: there are about 10 times as many sensory nerves in the glans of the clitoris as in the glans of the male penis, even though there is a significant difference in surface area.
Vaginal: generates the most anxiety and self-esteem problems since the view has spread that if a woman is not able to have a vaginal orgasm, then she is an infantile, immature personality. In fact, vaginal orgasm also results from the stimulation of the clitoris. Yes, because the clitoris has projections on the abdominal wall of the vagina. These swell under the influence of sexual arousal and if you and your partner find the position and pace that allows you to be most stimulated, then this can also lead the woman to pleasure. It is just more difficult to experience.
G-spot: the mysterious “something”. Some say it exists, others say it doesn’t. According to its believers, it is an anatomical point on the abdominal wall of the vagina, about 3-6 cm above the vaginal opening.
Anal: perhaps the biggest taboo surrounds this. It is probably triggered by the stimulation of the inner stems of the clitoris through the anus. It is important, very important, that anal stimulation can only take place with the woman’s consent, thorough preparation, mutual trust, and a high level of attention to the woman!
Nipple: yes, this is also noted in the literature. Like all the alternatives mentioned above, this is also very unique. Breasts have different sensitivity. Supposedly, smaller tits respond better to stimulation than fuller breasts. Well, that’s all for now.
This list is not exhaustive, and you may have other experiences. It really doesn’t matter which form of orgasm you’ve experienced. As long as sexuality is a desired, pleasurable, and safe feeling, any form of orgasm can occur. Whatever you experience, you’re fine.
Katalin Katona
sexual psychologist
one of the founders of the Dámia Sexual Therapy Center