Here is a brief overview of what erotic fantasies excite women the most. Everyone can decide for themselves whether the fantasies they undertake are surprising or not. But come on, you can be inspired by it!
A 2018 survey found that 81% of women surveyed find it arousing when their partner says “dirty” words to them during sex. 70% would like to go to a strip club, and 63% would like to try a remote-controlled sex toy. A slightly more mundane fantasy is to be blindfolded during sex and sacrifice on the altar of love.
A 2020 survey found that the majority of women would like to make love to a completely different man who is attractive to them, mostly because of the lack of judgment and the need to conform. Many people think of a sweet threesome… a foursome or a fivesome… the point is that there should be more women than men in it. Women also find it exciting to think about what it would be like to have sex “professionally”, meaning that they could get paid for their sexual services. The risk of getting caught can also increase desire: making love in a public place is still at the top of the list. Both forms of dominance trigger libido: whether the man fulfills the woman’s every wish or has to submit to the partner’s will, women are aroused. And finally: many people think of their permanent partner, their spouse, as a sexual partner during the day. This is a relief, because you can quickly fulfill this desire when you get home.
So it’s time to hang up (or rather take off) your underwear and talk openly with your partner about your sexual desires! Maybe you’ll have a fantasy that you can both enjoy.
Katalin Katona
sexual psychologist
one of the founders of the Dámia Sexual Therapy Center